“What makes a good father?” – This question concerns many of us, especially in the period when the image of the father is often questioned. Gernot Blümel takes us into his book “Man Power” on a trip to rediscover the father. In this extract of exclusive book for the Gentleman blog, we learn how men can live the role of the Father with strength, love and responsibility. An impressive call to all those who want to develop as a father or as a man in their identity. Be inspired by the impulses and find out what it means to be the man you would have liked as a father.

Fathers of the first fathers of today

There has been a father’s subject since my generation at the latest. The fathers were too little at home, the fathers did not take care too little, the fathers were not emotionally present, the fathers were too hard, too soft, too selfish, too patriarchal … There was a kind of demonization of the Vara, which essentially gives the fathers’ fault.

Don’t be a second mother!

I think it is good that all over the world, fathers want to participate in family life more consciously and more present, get involved and want to be there. But this time, the pendulum swings in the other extreme. Many fathers do not agree to be a father, but like a second mother. With beard. As if they had converted their father as a replacement mother for fear of making the same mistakes as their ancestors.

The father has a different role

However, it is a fact that men did not remain a puff of an infant. The fact is that babies need their mothers more than their fathers, especially during the first year of life. The father has a different role: supplier, protector, verifier, rock. Fathers make mistakes. This is how. Because they are humans. And all you can try is to approach an ideal of the “father”. To approach these qualities and integrate them into your life. Live this father.

My ideal father is …

My ideal father is strong, stable, reliable. The SO-appeal rock in surfing. He is protective and supplier. Not only material, but also spiritual. He is loving. He is not faithful. It is determined, has values ​​and an opinion that it represents. He motivates and inspired. He promotes and challenges. He listens, has an understanding and is right. It’s funny and wild, but also soft and comforting. It does not separate, but united. It solves disputes and helps solve problems. He is reliable, confident, full of hope and brings peace in troubled times. He gives security. It has a metaphorically wide shoulder and can wear a lot without complaining. He’s there. It is unconditional. Constant. It is security. He knows who he is and what are his strengths and weaknesses. He sees the situation as a whole and not only has developed. And he allows himself to make mistakes, to defend it, to compensate for them. It is a model. And with that, the circle closes.

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